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Date of last update (somewhere) on this page: November 13, 2022

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** My Personal Stats ** Activities, Hobbies, and Personal Life **
** My Boot and Leather Life ** Boots ** Dress Shoes ** Smoking ** Meeting other men **

My Stats

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Activities, Hobbies, and Personal Life

My activities and hobbies outside of my profession include:

Q. Why don't you use your real name on this website or on postings on the Internet?

A. Because if you use a search engine to look up my real name, you'll find a lot of my professional life. I do not want my professional life and personal life to be mixed up.

Q. Where do you hang out?

A. I am pretty much a home-body, and do not go out (except that I attend meetings in my community from time to time.) I am a very early-to-bed, early-to-rise guy, so that also precludes visits to bars and other nightspots, especially during the week.

Q. What activities do you do when you are wearing Cowboy Boots?

A. Going about daily life. Note: I do not dance.

Q. Besides riding a motorcycle, what activities do you do when you are wearing Motorcycle Boots?

A. Going about daily life.

Q. You have a huge collection of Dress Shoes. When do you wear them since you are retired?

A. Great question! I wear them at home with suits, just because I like how suits feel on my body. I like how they look and feel on my feet.

Q. What do you do in Work boots?

A. I own and wear several pairs of work boots when I do construction or mow my lawn.

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My Boot an Leather Life

BHD cowboy leathermanQ. Are you a Cowboy, Bootman, Leatherman, or a Bear?

A. Does it have to be "either/or"? I do not identify with any particular gay subculture. I have a few characteristics of these subcultures, but that's more by serendipity than by design.

Q. What to you compose the qualities of a Leatherman?

A. This is different for different men. For me, I wear my biker leathers for real, regularly. I do not pose in leather for a once-a-year event. I wear my leather around home and around my community during fall, winter, and spring.

Q. Do you mentor other Bootmen and emerging Leathermen?

A. I'm happy to give advice on request, such as my Complete Guide to Biker Leathers or my Complete Guide to Leather Gear. I will answer legitimate questions by email. Send me a message. I won't bite. I've "been there, done that" and perhaps I can share some of my experience to help you.

UniformsQ. Are you into uniforms?

A. I have a few uniforms or what looks like a uniform that I used to wear on occasional visits to leather bars. But I do not wear them any more and have put uniform attire up for sale.

Q. Do the red stripes on your fetish breeches, chaps, and leather shirts reflect the flag you fly as a leatherman?

A. No. I really just like the color combination of red and black with leather. According to "The Gay Hanky Code," red means "fist fucker," I am definitely not into that.

Q. I see you have cop uniforms -- do you get into the role of playing cop?

A. I like the look of a cop uniform, particularly how the boots go with the uniform. But that is it. I do not impersonate. I work with many cops in my local community, and especially appreciate and value their service. I do not pretend to be one, though.

Q. Do you attend events like Mid-Atlantic Leather, or International Mr. Leather, or Bear Conventions, club runs, or things like that?

Us at IMLA. My husband and I attended several MAL events and IML once. I did not enjoy these events for various reasons: I am not a night person. I am not interested in meeting other guys for sex as many attendees of these events are. I have moved on or outgrown going to these events and do not plan to attend any more.

Q. Wouldn't you like to trample on someone and enjoy a good bootlicking to a spitshine?

A. Ummm... no. That kind of play isn't something I do... and trampling is not something I would enjoying doing to someone else, or have done to me. It may get the other guy off, but it bothers me even to be around that type of action.

Q. Do you get into BDSM (bondage, discipline, flogging, etc.)?

A. No. I do not enjoy activities like that. I understand others do -- just not me.

Q. Do you have any latex, lycra, or spandex gear?

A. Nope. Definitely not for me.

Q. Do you phone other men who provide their number and ask for a call?

A. No. Demanding a call without knowing the person is annoying. I delete those messages.

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BootmanQ. How do you know you're a True Bootman?

A. While I didn't write it, the statements about knowing if you're a True Bootman found on the Hot Boots website almost all are exactly what I would say, too!

Boots suits

Q. You mean to tell me that you wear boots even to weddings, funerals, and other formal occassions?

A. I was booted in a tux as Best Man in my brother's formal wedding, and I've even attended receptions at embassies and the White House in my dress Cowboy Boots.

Q. Do people ever say anything about your wearing boots so frequently?

A. No. Boots on my feet are expected, but they also see me in dress shoes and don't say anything. It really doesn't matter.

Q. What would you would wear if you took visitors on a walking tour of Washington, DC?

Boots and treesA. I would likely wear comfortable hikers if I know I have to walk a lot.

Q. What do you wear when you do work around the house?

A. I own and wear various pairs of work boots.

Q. Do your feet get tired?

Firefighter bootsA. Sometimes... in boots or shoes made more for show than for comfort. I sometimes change boots or shoes several times day, depending on where I am going, what I will be doing, and the method of transportation I choose to use (my Harley, 4-wheeled vehicle, walking, or getting a ride with someone else.) Good quality socks also help a lot!

Q. What are your favorite boots?

A. I have no specific favorite boots. I wear most of my cowboy boots and motorcycle boots in my collection often.

Q. I do not see any rubber boots or rubber gear in your collection. Why not?

A. Rubber boots or gear do not do anything for me except make me sweat. I do not like that feeling, so I do not have any. Just not for me.

Boots bootsQ. Do you have any women's boots?

A. No. I am a masculine man. The boots in my collection are my own and for me to wear. I do not find women's boots interesting at all.

Q. Do you prefer lace-up or pull-on boots?

A. Generally, I prefer pull-on boots because I do not have much patience with the time required to lace boots properly. Since I didn't learn how to tie shoes until I was 13, that was another reason why I wore boots since about age 10... no tying required!

Q. Do you wear boots without socks?

A. I always wear socks. I can't stand the feeling of sweaty feet. Plus, my boots go on and come off so much more easily when I'm wearing socks.

Q. I do not see any crotch-high boots in your collection. Why not?

A. I once had a pair of 32" Wesco Big Boss Boots, but gave them away to a friend. I find boots above the knee to be hot and impractical. Personally, I do not like them (on me; this isn't about other guys.)

Boots over jeansQ. When you Cowboy Up, do you wear jeans inside or outside of your boots?

A. Jeans over the boots. In American culture, jeans are very rarely worn inside traditional cowboy boots (though it is common to wear jeans inside tall buckaroo boots).

Boots on HarleyQ. What boots do you wear when you ride your motorcycle?

A. If I will be going on a long motorcycle ride, I've found my Chippewa Firefighter Boots are great! These days, short tactical boots or good ol' Chippewa harness boots are my preference to wear when riding.

Q. You didn't mention wearing Wesco boots when riding your motorcycle.

A. That's right. I do not wear Wesco boots any more. They are uncomfortable, get hot, inflexible, and too heavy.

Q. What are your oldest boots that you still wear?

A. I still have about a dozen pairs of my Frye Boots from high school days; however, I can't wear them any more. I guess my oldest boots I wear are beat-up cowboy boots of some sort. I've got many of 'em.

Q. What are your newest boots?

A. Being a Bootman, I tend to get new boots rather often. When I get new boots, I mention them on my What's New Page on this website when I have pics of them.

Q. What boots have you been most disappointed with?

A. Boots that won't stop squeaking, or whose size says one thing but become something else. I do not like boots that have man-made shaft material. It feels like it is plastic, is hot, and sometimes has loose threads or material that causes something inside the shaft to rub on a part of my calf, causing sores. Crappy manufacturing processes are frequent for boots made in China, so I avoid them.

Q. What do you do about squeaking boots?

A. Inject silicone like WD-40 with a syringe, as well as apply Lexol leather conditioner along the part of the boot where the leather is stitched to the sole. If the squeak is in the heel, I have a cobbler replace the heels.

Patrol bootsQ. What have you done in your boots?

A. Mostly walk in them and ride horses or iron horses while wearing them. I have been known to have sex in my boots and shoot loads of cum on Dehners from time to time.

Q. What boots are most sexy to you?

A. Tall black Dehners. I have quite the Dehner fetish.

Q. Have you worn boots 24/7?

A. I've tried, but I have this problem with sweaty extremeties, and when my feet sweat, the discomfort I feel keeps me awake. I can't sleep while wearing boots.

Q. Would you like to wear boots 24/7?

A. No.

Q. Were boots a factor in your early years as you were identifying as Gay?

A. No. Boots were not sexual fetish objects to me. Today, a man wearing boots is definitely of interest, and I wear boots when I have sex.

Tall cop bootsQ. What boots do you have your eye on?

A. Tall Black Motorcycle Cop Boots on real bike cops in uniform always catch my eye. And I do not pass up noticing guys in cowboy boots, either. (Especially if the guy is in tight Wranglers!)

Q. What boots would you like to get that you do not already have?

A. Hard to say ... I think I've gotten pretty much everything I have wanted and will wear, but I keep my eyes open. I can't turn down a good pair of boots (new or used) if the style, color, composition, height, manufacturer, etc., attract my attention and doesn't duplicate something I have already.

Q. How do you decide when to get a pair of boots?

A. When I've saved money in my Boot Fund and see something I like. I never carry a balance on credit cards and always pay my bills in full, so after bills are paid, I put some money aside in a Boot Fund (savings account) and wait until I have enough to get what I want.

Wesco bootsQ. What's the most you have paid for a pair of boots?

A. $700.00 for Custom Wesco Roughout Harness Boots that I regretted buying and sold them several years later.

Q. Other than gifts, what's the least you have paid for a pair of boots?

A. About $40 from an eBay auction. About $100 for a new pair from a store or internet site featuring a sale.

Q. What turns you on about boots?

A. How they look, the height of the shaft, the sound they make when I walk in them, and how they feel on my legs when I wear them.

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Dress Shoes

Brooks Brothers Suit Q. Do you wear shoes?

A. Yes, since 2017 I developed a dress shoe fetish and have expanded my footwear collection to include a lot of nice-looking dress shoes. I especially like six-eyelet oxfords made by Allen Edmonds, wingtip oxfords, and think that black shoes are among the most sexy, though walnut with a blue suit looks hot and oxblood shoes certainly grab my attention. I also like stylish classic oxfords from Paul Evans, which to me are quite attractive. I significantly expanded my dress shoe collection during 2021 (and onward) with shoes made in Colombia, England, Italy, Spain, and India. I continue to explore the world of men's dress shoes and am trying out different brands made around the world (except for China.)

Q. Do you wear a suit and tie?

A. Hell yeah! I like the look (jacket, shirt, tie, tailored suit pants, and shoes) and how a well-fitted suit feels and goes with my large dress shoe collection. I own and wear several tailored men's suits, ties, shirts, slacks -- "the works." I have a suit fetish and enjoy it.

Q. What do you like about dressing up, especially since you are retired and don't have to?

A. I like the look of a dress shirt, tie, slacks, and nice-looking dress shoes, especially with a suit. Men's dresswear these days is comfortable, lightweight, and easy to wear all day. When I go grocery shopping in a suit, I've attracted the attention of other guys who compliment the shoes (they always look at the shoes), then strike up a conversation. Haven't gone home with anyone ... yet.

Leather SuitQ. Do you have and wear a leather suit?

A. Yes, I have put together several all-leather suits (dress leather shirt, leather tie, leather blazer, dress leather pants, black leather gloves and Muir cap) that I wear with my dress shoes. All the leather gear that assembles dress leather suits are on my gear fetish page. Check it out!

Q. What are your most expensive pair of dress shoes?

A. Carmina formal black cap toes.

Q. What are the sexiest pair of dress shoes you own?

A. The sexiest pair of shoes I own and wear (so far) are Paul Evans black cap toes. Man, they are hot! They give me a hard on every time I wear them.

Q. How many shoes do you have?

A. Like my boot collection, my dress shoe collection continues to grow. The count is on my dress shoe index page.

Q. Do you wear sneakers? What do you wear to the gym?

A. I do not wear sneakers. My form of preferred exercise is walking, not wasting money on a gym membership. I have several pairs of hiking boots suitable for regular long walks.

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Q. Do you smoke cigarettes?

A. Yes. I prefer Marlboro 100s.

Q. Didn't you quit?

A. I never really quit smoking. I just hid it for a while because my late husband didn't like it. When I smoked, I smoked outside and not around him.

Q. Why do we see you smoking now?

A. I thought, "f'kit, why hide it?" I smoke... and returned my smoking page to this website in 2022.

Q. Do you smoke cigars?

A. Seldom. While the smell of cigs doesn't bother me, the smell of cigars does, so I choose not to smoke cigars, but won't refuse one if offered to me.

Q. How much do you smoke?

A. It varies, but around a pack a day, more or less.

Q. Do you smoke in your home?

A. Sometimes.

Q. What do you like to wear when smoking?

A. I have three associated fetishes: 1. Leather -- I smoke a LOT while wearing leather. 2. Suits -- a man smoking in a suit is hot! 3. Cowboys -- that's how it began.

Q. What do you mean, "how it began?"

A. When I was 16 years old, I worked summers on a family horse farm in Oklahoma. All of the working cowboys smoked Marlboros. One of the cowboys who was about 6 years older (and was quite a stud) offered me a Marlboro and I liked it. He continued to give me smokes that summer. By the time I returned back East for school, I was hooked. Smoking was allowed in high school if you had a note from a parent. I got one, and thus... I smoked since then (more or less.)

Q. Have you smoke-swapped with another guy?

A. Yes, but it wasn't what I thought it would be.

Q. What is your sexual fantasy about smoking?

A. I enjoy smoking while wearing my Muir Cap and tight leather gloves. That's not a fantasy -- that's reality.

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Meeting other men

Update (November 2022): As I live forward in my life, I will always carry my husband in my heart and recall fond memories of our 28 year bond.

Since he died in January, 2021, I spent a great deal of time grieving and dealing with my pain. With support of my family, close friends, a great support group, and with tons of useful hours of service to my community through volunteering, I began to emerge into a "new me" in October, 2022.

That "new me" got reacquainted with really nice guy to whom I gave a motorcycle ride 13 years ago. He remained as a casual friend, and was always respectful of my monogamous relationship with my husband. He checked in with me in late October... then it led to a date, then more.

Being a Master Leatherman, I am "Sir" in this relationship. My friend is "leatherboy" and is on the sub side. Don't let the titles deceive you -- he is a few years younger than me, but he's no twink. He is a masculine man, which this Sir wants in his life.

Leatherboy is really hot in leather, boots, and with a Marlboro. He is as into me as I am into him; he tics my boxes! He is safe, sane, sensible, value-driven, responsible, and a hell of a lot of fun to be with. And yeah, we are intimate. About time! Woof! I've got a hell of a lot to catch up on!

Now that I am building a relationship with leatherboy, I am not interested in meeting other men on that kind of level. Meeting a buddy casually is fine, but nothing more than that. Leatherboy takes care of all of my needs, wants, and desires.

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